Guest Rooms That Say “We’re Glad You’re Here”
Rule #1: Don’t be so busy that you forget to check out these things before you need them. On the other hand, when I know that friends will be staying overnight, I might add a pretty new detail or two. Can you relate to this?
Because I love to travel, I’ve spent many a night staying in hotels, inns, bed and breakfasts, and with friends. While I’m there I always notice how I feel when I’m in the space. Do I feel welcomed? Does it feel creepy? Is it adequate, but could use some work?

I know that, as an interior designer, I’m more aware of my surroundings than most people. And I truly believe that each space has it’s own energy. But these stays have let me discover a thing or two about what the “perfect” guest bedroom could be. And in the end, it comes down to these three questions:
- Is it Welcoming?
- Is it Comfortable?
- Is it Private?
A welcoming room will let your guests know that you really want them to be there. It has little added touches like flowers, magazines, and good lighting. One friend introduced me to the idea of Pillow Presents, which are gifts you place on your guest’s pillow before they arrive. I loved this idea, and started doing it when our family comes to visit. It doesn’t have to be expensive. Sometimes I forget, and leave a little bag of candy. Or completely forget and am reminded by my youngest granddaughter. And now my daughters have started leaving them on our pillows when we visit!

To feel comfortable, room size isn’t as important as the bed, the pillows, and the temperature in the room. Everyone has their own comfort level when it comes to these three things. Giving options to your guests is so appreciated…especially aging parents, pregnant daughters, and “hot flashing” girlfriends!!! We’ve rented a house in Florida for a few weeks, and I’m already wondering if the bed and pillows will give us a good night’s sleep.
Finding a private space for everyone when your home is overflowing with guest can sometimes be a challenge. When this happens it’s helpful to think out of the box and have a plan before your guests arrive. But, basically, guest appreciate a place to store their “stuff”, and maybe get away from the crowd for a minute or two.
Do you have a checklist of guest room favorites? Here is my Top 10 list. Some were borrowed from my friends, hotels, and inns. Others were suggested to me by family.
- A comfortable mattress with mattress pad
- Tiny paper cups at the sink, stacked on a pretty plate
- A full length mirror, or at least a mirror for makeup and hair
- A folding screen or some type of room divider if other guests will be walking by or sharing the space
- Bottled water or a small pitcher and glass
- Down pillows, or at least nice fluffy ones (some people sleep with two pillows)
- A throw to cuddle up with for an afternoon nap
- A place to hang your clothes and open your suitcase…and empty hangers
- Lamps tall enough to read in bed
- Blinds or draperies to cover the window at night
Do I have each and every one of these in our guest room? Not at all! But I’m working on it with each and every guest. And when I travel, the list grows as I discover some new little nicety that I hadn’t thought of before.
In the end, it’s all about enjoying your time with house guests, welcoming them into your home, and being together making memories that will last a lifetime!
Your Design Action Steps:
- Look at your guest room from a visitor’s eye…objectively
- Make a list of what you see that is welcoming, comfortable, and offers privacy
- Now make a list of what could be added to the room that would add to your guest’s comfort, and make them feel really welcomed
Remember that it doesn’t have to be expensive or over the top in luxury.
You Get What You Pay For: The Up’s and Down’s Of Shopping On-line
Has anyone ever told you that sometimes the lowest price doesn’t always mean it’s the best choice for a project? I know that I’ve heard it from my parents, my contractors, and other designer friends, “You get what you pay for.” I even pass on these words of advice to my own clients.
But with the ease of internet shopping and today’s supply shortages, it’s so easy to hop on-line to find exactly the look and color you want. With the ease of comparing prices from one vendor to another and faster delivery times, who wouldn’t want to give it a try? After all, ordering a custom sofa, or even having your old one re-upholstered can take several months.
We all can think of a few things for our home that we would pay almost anything to have. It’s beautiful, the quality is excellent, and the color is exactly what we need to make the room go from drab to fab! When it’s finally ours we’re so happy and excited that we can’t wait to share!
Then there are the other things that we need for our projects that aren’t so important to us. They might be a filler piece to finish off the room. Or an appliance that we know we won’t use every day. That’s when finding a bargain really gets our excitement flowing.
A while back, my words of advice came back to haunt me when I did my own on-line shopping. Let me tell you a story of my first experience…..
When I was staying in Singapore several years ago, I bought a beautiful hand knotted tribal carpet runner. It’s made with vegetable dyes, which I love, and the colors are deep and rich reds, blues, and ivories. This rug has traveled with us from house to house, and I still have wonderful memories whenever I look at it.

Imagine my surprise, when I was browsing through an on-line weekly sale and saw a small area carpet in the same exact pattern and the same exact colors. And the best part was that it was more than half of the price I paid for the runner!
While I was thinking it was too good to be true, I checked their return policy. Good to know that not only was shipping free, the return freight was free. Once I discovered that important fact, it took about a minute to hit the “order now” button…and it was mine!!!!
My excitement mounted as I waited for the package to arrive. Finally, 4 days later, it made it to my front porch. I ran for the scissors to cut the bag. I pulled off the bag. I unrolled the carpet. And then…..a total disappointment over the purchase.

You see, what I couldn’t have guessed by looking at the on-line photograph, was the dull colors. They were the same reds, blues, and ivories, but definitely not as vibrant. The patterns are almost identical, but there are many more knots per inch on the expensive carpet than on the bargain carpet. And lastly, the height of the tufting doesn’t compare with the runner.
By itself, the “bargain” tribal carpet would look beautiful in any home. But because I wanted to show them in the same room, it just wouldn’t work. The comparison in color intensity and quality would have always bothered me.

Since that first experience of on-line shopping for our home, I’ve made several other purchases. Some were perfect, and others not so perfect. Items have been returned because they didn’t look like the on-line image or the description. An accent rug was kept simply because it met the criteria we were looking for: fast delivery, washable, inexpensive, and puppy-proofed.
It all comes down to what you value most at the time you’re ready to purchase. If it’s something you need to replace because the one you have is broken, waiting 3 months for a perfect quality piece might not be an option. But if it’s an item that you really love, then waiting for a piece of furniture that is customized for your room is worth it.

When we discovered that our custom made counter stools couldn’t be repaired and the finish was discontinued, it was finally time to decide on a replacement. With a newly renovated kitchen, and company coming, what I valued at that point in time was a swivel stool that looked good, in colors that would work with our cabinets and countertops. For me, it was more important to have them delivered within the week than to wait months for custom stools.
After carefully reading the specification to make sure they would be the correct size, the order was placed. They arrived within the week, just in time for our guests! Are they exactly what I would have chosen given patience to wait for custom? No. But for now, the color is perfect and the seats will be covered soon in a fabric that coordinates with the other fabrics and colors in the space.
These stools, when compared to the custom swivel stools we had, are definitely a “you get what you pay for” purchase. I mean, they were a lot less than a custom stool would cost. But because I carefully read the product details, and studied the on-line image, I knew what to expect and wasn’t disappointed.
Lessons Learned:
- If your design project requires you to have two or more items that are identical or even remotely similar, buy them at the same time.
- If the price is really low, it just might be too good to true.
- Carefully read the product description and specifications for length, width, seat depth, arm height
- Seeing a product in person so that you can touch it and feel it is a good thing.
- On-line shopping is great! But make sure the return policy is one you can live with.
- Keep a list of what you need or want for your next design project. And from that list decide what you’re willing to splurge on and what you would rather bargain shop for.
- Don’t buy your main upholstered pieces online unless you’re familiar with the manufacturer.
When it comes to shopping online, there are good deals to be had, especially during sales. But remember to do your research, read the fine details, and decide if settling for less than your dream is worth it. After all, no one wants to be told “you get what you pay for.”
Adventures in Renovating: The “Morning Room” Edition
I’m sure you’re wondering what is a morning room? This was the description in the MLS listing for this 10×10 room off the kitchen. We had never heard that term before. Some people would call it a keeping room. Other’s call it a sitting room. We go back and forth. And since it’s used all the time, it seems a little silly to call it a morning room.
Like the rest of the house, it needed a lot of updating. But in the early planning stage, fresh paint and new lights were the only things on the plan. Unpacking and settling in came first. And then the interior designer in me took over!

The furnished room shown on the MLS listing.
Stage 1: Make the room work with what you have. Live in it a while and get a feel for how you’ll live in the space. If you have plans for a full renovation in a few months, it’s wise to not make costly changes that will be taken apart later.

Filling the bookshelves with our own accessories and making it work…for now!
Stage 2: When you “can’t take it anymore” and need to do something. Discovering an unused can of paint from the last house. Anything to get closer to our own colors! It’s amazing how a little change of color can help you relax and feel happy.


First the back of the cabinets, and then the fireplace was calling out for new color.
Stage 3: Finding inspiration. Sometimes projects evolve and change. What starts out as simple fixes that you can live with for a while, usually end up in major changes that add to your budget. A girl can dream, right? In the long run it adds value to your home by updating it. Since we tend to move every 5-7 years, re-sale is always top of mind.
This photo was found on the Rustica website and became part of the new vision for the space.
Stage 4: Getting the dream out of your head and onto paper. Sometimes those dreams change as you live in the space and see how it can work better for you. And then you need to have patience while you wait for bids, demo, and construction.

Walls are cut to fit the new windows.

Let there be light! What started out as a room with no view to the backyard, is now light-filled.
Stage 5: The excitement of the reveal and seeing your vision become a reality!

We have windows!!!…and storage benches.
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Stage 6: Highlighting imperfections. We all love to have as much natural light as possible in our homes. It brightens the room and lets us see nature all around us. But sometimes it also shows us the flaws in the room that were never noticed before. It’s hard to stay calm and take a deep cleansing breath when you’ve just had the room painted, and are now seeing new imperfections.
There’s an old Amish saying that “only God is perfect”. And I have to tell you that’s a VERY hard thing to deal with when you’re a perfectionist! Over time, I’ve learned to let it go…for now. It’s helped a lot to have a Brain Dump sheet that lists all the “not perfect” things I want to fix over time. And the funny thing is, after a while you don’t see the “not perfect” things as much because there’s something more pressing to take care of.
Yes, my friend, renovating is an adventure in dreaming, planning, and seeing it through to the end. It’s a lesson in patience, kindness, tolerance, and faith that it will all come together in the end.

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Break Free of Your “Color Box”: Let Nature Choose Your Color Palette
Have you ever walked into someone’s home and it is absolutely the perfect colors? You want to curl up in a chair and make yourself right at home. Maybe grab a glass of wine and a really good book. And while you’re sitting there you begin to wonder how they accomplished that daunting task?
There are many tricks, tips, and secrets that designers use to create the perfect color palette for themselves and their clients. And one of these is to let nature do the work for you.
One of my favorite things to do when I’m outside is to take a good look at everything around me. I notice the textures of tree bark. I look at the way light plays on a mountainside. Maybe it’s the art classes or the quilts I’ve made that have created this awareness. Maybe it’s just one person’s passion for color and texture. But through each experience, I’ve learned that nature is the best form of color combination you’ll ever find.
As I was looking at this beautiful lake photograph, thinking about Fall, and feeling nostalgic about leaving our lake home for new adventures, I realized that most of my favorite colors are in that photo. And, most importantly, I use these guides to help me with my own color selections.
Let’s look at the photo above to see how you can make it work in your home for your next DIY project.
1. Find one dominating color that really speaks to you and use it freely. For me it’s the beautiful blues of water that range from deep blue to turquoise.
2. Next choose a secondary color from the photo. Red would be my personal choice. One of my favorite pieces of pottery just happens to include both of these colors!

3. After that, choose one or two more to be accents. These colors can be present in pillows, throws, towels, and any other accent piece you’d like to use.

4. Finally select one color for a background and paint your walls. My go-to neutral wall color is usually Benjamin Moor Cedar Key. It goes with everything and makes a good background for colorful art work.

Take a look at these accent pieces found online. They’re great examples of how you can follow the steps above to create your own color palette, and then shop on your own to find the perfect accents to pull it all together.


And, if you’re renovating, be courageous and step out of your neutral color box and just go for it!!!

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COME BACK WITH A NEW PERSPECTIVE

It’s the Year of the Pig, and I wish you Gong Xi Fa Cai! Happy Lunar New Year and Chinese New Year (aka CNY)! May you have a happy and prosperous new year.
Did you know that this holiday typically lasts for two weeks? Such a long break gives families a chance to travel to their parents’ home to celebrate, spend time together, and get a fresh start on the new year.
I love the idea of a fresh start for the new year! And traveling is always a perfect way to make that happen. Sometimes it’s a relaxing trip to the beach, and other times it’s a whirlwind of site seeing, museums, and great restaurants. But the best part for me is coming home with a new attitude and a fresh perspective.
Traveling gives my mind a break from the day to day routine of running a business, and the daily routine of life that we all seem to find ourselves in. Once I’ve had a break from all of this, the creative juices start flowing and new ideas seem more exciting and possible than they did before.
“It’s not always that we need to do more, but rather that we need to focus on less.” – Nathan W. Morris

Our recent return trip to Singapore and Bali did just that. I was trying to check off more things on my to-do list than was humanly possible. And of course, guess what that lead to…
For months before this fabulous vacation I just wasn’t inspired to write a blog post or send out a newsletter. And that lead to guilt. Can you relate?
Have you ever wanted to simply be quiet and go with the flow of life instead of feeling the need to produce all the time? I finally hit that wall!!!
So I gave myself permission to stop writing, stop feeling guilty, and to focus on family and friends, client projects and creativity. I started quilting again and playing with clay. I even joined a quilt guild with a friend!!! That one definitely sent my husband into shock!
But the guilt was still there, and the nagging feeling that a change was needed. So our big trip after the holidays was the perfect time to completely forget about everything except having fun! And it was a chance to get a fresh perspective on what is really important.
Now that vacation is over, and I’ve had time to re-group, I realize that I love the Chinese New Year celebrations I experienced in Singapore! I love the colors, the red lanterns, and the oranges that are given as good luck for the coming year.

I love the festivities leading up to the big day…lion dances, artisans sharing their craft, and beautiful displays all over town.
But I also discovered that the traditions practiced in Chinese homes to get ready for the Lunar New Year, are the same ones we follow to get ready for our own New Year. Here are a few that we share:
- Preparing special foods to bring good luck and prosperity.
- Cleaning the house top to bottom to welcome our guests and greet the new year.
- Clearing out the bad energy of the year before by moving things around.
- Going through closets to get rid of old clothing, shoes, and purses you no longer use. Clearing out the old makes way for wonderful new things in your life for the coming year.
- In the kitchen, throw out containers and jars that only have a little bit left in them. Keeping them, shows you’re stingy and good fortune will stay away!
- Organize drawers and pantries, removing anything you no longer need or want. If it isn’t used and doesn’t bring you joy, give it away.
- Do not cook in your kitchen on Lunar New Year! Sorry…I had to throw in this one even though we don’t usually practice it in our western culture. But wouldn’t that be nice?
Many of these traditions are changes that we can easily make to our homes. And these changes can give us a fresh perspective by letting us look at things from a different point view. Sometimes you simply need to walk away for a while so you can look at a space or problem in a different way. Now get ready for the creative ideas to flow!
Your Design Homework:
- Sort through your cabinets and pantry and look for any bottles, jars, etc. that have only a tiny bit left in the bottom. Throw it away!
- For 9 days in a row, throw away (or give away) 27 things each day. That could be 27 pieces of paper one day and 27 pieces of clothing another day. I’ve been known to even get rid of 27 magazines from my ever growing pile.
- This is a bit more challenging, but 27 things in your house and move them around. An easy way to do this is to take down all your accessories and spread them out on the floor. Now relocate them to different rooms in your house, or even a different shelf on the bookcase.
Sometimes you just simply need to walk away for a while so you can look at a space or problem in a different way. Now get ready for the creative ideas to flow!

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I'm Randi Destefano, and I love helping homeowners design and renovate their existing home. 




