Your Space Matters: 3 Secrets To Design Your Life At Home

Your Space Matters: 3 Secrets To Design Your Life At Home

 

Your Space Matters.  It really does!  As we go about our day, following our crazy schedules, it’s so easy to get caught up in life and ignore this place we call home.

And then one day we wake up and notice that things around us are looking a bit worn and tired. There are rooms we avoid because we just don’t feel comfortable there.  Sometimes we’re unorganized and often late for work or carpool because we can’t find the car keys.  Does this sound a little bit familiar?

And worst of all, because we feel this way, it starts to impact the way we act around other people and how we respond to them…even if we don’t realize it.  You know what I mean.  The kitchen counter is piled with a PTA project that needs to be finished, so you’re stressed.  Then the kids start clamoring for your attention…and you snap at them.  Or you’re embarrassed to have friends over because your kitchen “doesn’t look as good as their kitchen.”

We’ve all been there at one time or another, and it’s not a fun place to be.  Now’s the time to sit back, take a deep breath, and make a plan to design your life at home.  Here are my 3 secrets to making it happen:

Secret #1:  Define your values

Start by making a list of everything that HOME means to you. Do you want it to be a retreat to come home to at the end of a long hectic day?  Do you love to welcome family and friends?  Next make a list of your priorities in order of importance.  But be sure that they fit what you value most about home.  A good example of this would be loving to cook but dreading it because your kitchen is always a mess.

Secret #2:  Discover what works for you and your lifestyle

How do you want to live in your home?  If you love to be relaxed and casual, then choose furniture styles that reflect that.  When low maintenance is something you value, a clean and simple style with few accessories might be the way to go.

How do you want to feel when you’re at home?  Do you want to feel relaxed, unhurried, and stress free?  What about energetic, organized, and carefree?  Think about the lifestyle you have now, or even the one that you’d like to have, and create your home makeover to compliment that.

What do you want more of?  For me it’s more creative time.  If I don’t create a space for that to happen, I don’t plan it into my day.

What do you want less of?  Maybe you want to spend less time cleaning or staying on top of the clutter.  Less accessories and better storage solutions would be the answer.

Secret #3:  Just do it!

Too often we make excuses….
I don’t have the time.
We can’t afford it.
I can’t live through construction.
I don’t know where to start.

So many times these excuses are just us getting in our own way because we’re afraid to take that first step.  Start with something simple and begin the process with what you already have.  Get rid of the outdated floral arrangements, move lamps and pillows to another room, or re-purpose a table for another use.  One client realized that she was spending less and less time in her home office, and instead working later and later at meetings and other busy work.  As soon as she admitted to herself that she really hated the way her office made her feel, she was ready to make a change.  And guess what?  A new paint color was enough to soothe her feelings of uneasiness, and she’s now using her office again!

 

Your Space Matters: 3 Secrets to Designing Your Life at Home

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Your Space Matters.  It really does!  As we go about our day, following our crazy schedules, it’s so easy to get caught up in life and ignore this place we call home.

And then one day we wake up and notice that things around us are looking a bit worn and tired. There are rooms we avoid because we just don’t feel comfortable there.  Sometimes we’re unorganized and often late for work or carpool because we can’t find the car keys.  Does this sound a little bit familiar?

And worst of all, because we feel this way, it starts to impact the way we act around other people and how we respond to them…even if we don’t realize it.  You know what I mean.  The kitchen counter is piled with a PTA project that needs to be finished, so you’re stressed.  Then the kids start clamoring for your attention…and you snap at them.  Or you’re embarrassed to have friends over because your kitchen “doesn’t look as good as their kitchen.”

We’ve all been there at one time or another, and it’s not a fun place to be.  Now’s the time to sit back, take a deep breath, and make a plan to design your life at home.  Here are my 3 secrets to making it happen:

Secret #1:  Define your values

Start by making a list of everything that HOME means to you. Do you want it to be a retreat to come home to at the end of a long hectic day?  Do you love to welcome family and friends?  Next make a list of your priorities in order of importance.  But be sure that they fit what you value most about home.  A good example of this would be loving to cook but dreading it because your kitchen is always a mess.

Secret #2:  Discover what works for you and your lifestyle

How do you want to live in your home?  If you love to be relaxed and casual, then choose furniture styles that reflect that.  When low maintenance is something you value, a clean and simple style with few accessories might be the way to go.

How do you want to feel when you’re at home?  Do you want to feel relaxed, unhurried, and stress free?  What about energetic, organized, and carefree?  Think about the lifestyle you have now, or even the one that you’d like to have, and create your home makeover to compliment that.

What do you want more of?  For me it’s more creative time.  If I don’t create a space for that to happen, I don’t plan it into my day.

What do you want less of?  Maybe you want to spend less time cleaning or staying on top of the clutter.  Less accessories and better storage solutions would be the answer.

Secret #3:  Just do it!

Too often we make excuses….
I don’t have the time.
We can’t afford it.
I can’t live through construction.
I don’t know where to start.

So many times these excuses are just us getting in our own way because we’re afraid to take that first step.  Start with something simple and   begin the process with what you already have.  Get rid of the outdated floral arrangements, move lamps and pillows to another room, or repurpose a table for another use.          One client realized that she was spending less and less time in her home office, and instead working later and later at meetings and other busy work.  As soon as she admitted to herself that she really hated the way her office made her feel, she was ready to make a change.  And guess what?  A new paint color was enough to soothe her feelings of uneasiness, and she’s now using her office again!

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Your Space Matters!

tulips in potteryWhen life gets a little too busy, it’s easy to neglect the small things.  At first no one really notices the small things left undone.  You know…the door that needs painted, the wallpaper peeling in the bathroom, the worn pillows, or the cluttered desk.

But as the paperwork and closets are ignored, and broken items stay broken, a growing chaos becomes evident.  Does this ever happen to you?

 

 

 

 

my cluttered officeHas your office ever been this cluttered?  Some days I’d rather work in another space to avoid it.

Suddenly the chaos around you starts to affect the way you feel inside.  Maybe you recognize this.  Maybe you don’t.  But suddenly the outer chaos becomes inner chaos, and you feel edgy and fragmented.

 

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I am a firm believer that Your Space Matters, and that how you live affects the way you show up in the world.

 

kitchen chaosMy sad, cluttered kitchen…and this is MUCH better than it looked last night! Feeling very fragmented in this mess, and not sure what to tackle first.

Has your kitchen ever been so cluttered that you can’t find the car keys?  You’re frustrated, irritable, and maybe even panicked about being late for the meeting.  Your day has started off on the wrong foot, and you find yourself snapping at people along the way.

Have you ever walked into a room in your home that just feels “off”?  You can’t pinpoint why you feel this way…you just do.  So you spend as little time as possible there, or even avoid it all together.

Your Space Matters:  One of my clients hated her outdated, ugly kitchen so much that she never wanted to walk into it.  Now that the space is bright and shiny and new, she loves spending time there with friends and family.

Your Space Matters:  Another client always preferred working away from her home office.  She began to notice that she was avoiding going back to the office to work, staying away longer and longer.  When she finally realized that she hated the lack of color in her office, she took the first step with a quick coat of paint in a color that made her happy.  With a few more tweaks to the space…big changes! Her time in the office is now productive and energetic.

 

The Smallest Step

 

Your Design Homework: 

  1. This first small step in the process is to ask yourself if your home is a place that you can retreat to. Does it nurture you and make you feel comfortable?  If it doesn’t, then what is your vision?
  2. Is there a room in your home that needs a little TLC? Projects unfinished?  Make a list, focus on completing ONE THING at a time, and then see how it affects your mood.